I began the process of shopping for a wedding dress early. I knew it would be difficult to select something mainly for two reasons: 1. Though I had some ideas in mind, they were all over the place 2. My mom is just as indecisive as I am so it would be two times harder to make the final decision.
I did a lot of research on different silhouettes, fabrics, styles, designers and even colors. There is usually a certain type of gown associated with destination weddings (flowing chiffon comes to mind) but I didn’t want to be put in a box and limited to what I could wear on my special day just because of my wedding location. I knew comfort was important to me because I planned to party with absolutely no restrictions. I wanted something that was a little unexpected with classic elements. Most importantly, I never wanted to look back at my pictures and wonder what the heck I was thinking!
In the beginning, I tried on tons of dresses, and when I say tons I literally mean tons. The final tally was over 100 dresses, which ranged from Vera to Monique Lhuillier to Enzoani and everything in between. The process started out super fun and ended up more like a chore.
Every now and again, I would madly love a gown and then a couple of weeks later, I would fall out of love. That might just be the Gemini in me. The dress would please one twin but not the other. I seriously did not think I would ever get that “This is THE one” feeling, and I’m still not sure if I ever got it like other brides experienced. What I do know is that I learned the best way to select a wedding dress is by not putting too much pressure on “the dress”. In the end, it is just a dress. I went with my instincts and slept on the decision just to make sure it was right. When my spirit urged me to try on one dress three different times, I knew it was the one I wanted. I selected a dress that I felt like me in. I wasn’t playing dress up or pretend. I felt like me, just a bit more glamorous.